Who said English is a versatile language? It still lacks in vocabulary! What would you call someone whom you are acquainted with but hasn’t accepted yet? Friends! Then, what would you call someone who is a lost contact but a lasting memory? Friends! You’ve been seeing someone on and off co-incidentally and I ask you to introduce him/her, you say Friend! You are pursuing an unyielding love to knot off but until that happen or not happen, you call him/her Friend! FRIEND - A generic word that’s used and misused so often that the true meaning gets tarnished. Sad! Alright, what I was trying to arrive at by confusing u with the controversies of friendship is that I had a date with a friend last evening! Not the traditional date involving a man and woman, a date with a female friend of my college days.
Talking about her, I should say, we are a strange combo, basically very different in most aspects, from attire to attitude. Circumstances that find her discreet would find me outspoken and the ones that find me silent might get her talkative. If I am a sine, she is cosine. If she is acute, I am obtuse. Still, we wound up as friends and still happen to be, which is the only reason I believe that drove me to meet her at our decided venue - near a heavy traffic signal. I’ve always liked the name “Dolly” for it sounds happy and cute. Since this friend of mine would not like to be blogged upon with identity, I call her “Dolly” for the purpose of this post. Dolly has moved to Chennai to stay for a couple of days. Of all the things that you would expect to converse with a long-time-no-see buddy, what we did wouldn’t be one.
Dolly : Archu...you’ve changed!
Archu : Is it? Fatter? Leaner? Taller?
Dolly : Nah, you look just the same. It’s your clothes!
(Surely, that was an insult. I was straight from office and no office would admit anything profane.)
Archu : Would I make Mallika Sheravat jealous? ;)
Dolly : Idiot!! I meant you are in formals. I expected you in salwar.
Archu : Isn’t salwar formal?
Dolly : It is...err...I dunno, maybe because I am used to seeing you in salwar that I feel you have changed.
Archu : If change is about clothes, I change everyday. :)
Dolly : Oh oh...still arguing like before? I should take that back. You haven’t changed!
Archu : But you just said I HAVE changed...
Dolly : Cut it! we’ll discuss our changes elsewhere, definitely not here with the cars and two wheelers horning off.
With that, we moved off to pick a few purchases and landed at Besant Nagar beach to reminisce our past and relish cotton candies in parallel.
Archu : So Dolly, let’s get done with the formalities. How are you? How is life?
Dolly : Am fine...learnt quite some things technically and practically but otherwise, pretty much the same.
Archu : Won’t you ask me how is mine?
Dolly : WON’T! Because I know. I’ve been reading your blogs and madam, what the hell do you think blogging about your personal life?
Archu : I cannot blog on someone else’s (okie...she glares). My life and I blog, what’s wrong?
Dolly : That’s wrong! Your life, you live...that is fine but you are voluntarily ruining your reputation by being too frank on the blogspot.
Archu : Ruin? And I thought I was getting FAMOUS!!! Explain!!!!
Dolly : I am not talking about your movie reviews or publicity stunts. Fool around, no issues! There are a few sensitive posts from your side that holds my concern. You don’t have to blog everything you know even if it is only for vent. You don’t gain anything by being that honest.
Archu : Honest? Should talking in first person necessarily mean me? You don’t doubt that my blogs can come from figments of imagination as well?
Dolly : (Vaguely) Could. But there is no way proving it to people who “talk”. You might lose friends!
Archu : Friends!!!
(echos within my head cinematically...friends...friends...friends).
Archu : My friends question me on the face. Those who talk behind aren’t friends. And those who change impressions from blogs even after knowing me as me are definitely no friends whatsoever! Why should I bother? Have I lost you?
Dolly : No, you don’t get me. You could afford to live without complications. Why do you go out of the way to defame yourself?
Archu : Simple. I am complicated. I want to cut the frills.
Dolly : Meaning?
Archu : Be just myself rather than being what somebody else expects me to be. Be with people who’re friends with me for what I am and not for what they think I am.
Dolly : You are impossible!!! Choose to be what you are but I care for the society and its opinions.
Archu : Care or Fear?
(She raises her eyebrows questioningly)
Archu : Caring is doing to the society whats in your capacities. Fearing is limiting your capabilities to suit society’s definitions.
Dolly : Enough! I have not come to talk philosophies with you. I’ve come to meet a friend who has both changed and not changed over time.
Archu : And you have just met her...how about ‘hot hot Idlies’ from ‘Murugan Idli Kadai’...one of the famous restaurants around?
Dolly : Sure, I am starving!
......From there on our conversation covered diversified areas of each other’s lives and those of our common friends' too. I know I would be scolded the moment Dolly sees this blog but if I pursue further with our other discussions, I would have to do it after digging my own cemetery and I have no intentions of dying today.
To my readers, I’ve aimed this post to quench a few unasked questions from hidden voices. There is no personal offense meant. Please pardon me.